Museling 20 – Dream Date #8

Museling 20 – April 16th, 2018

The eighth Dream Date is a bad date, for some reason.

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Episode transcript:

This is Dream Date number 8.


I don’t think that you can say that it’s my fault that the bar where I suggested we meet turned out not to have any phone signal. It’s not like I chose it specifically to inconvenience you. And I didn’t make the rain happen either. So the fact that you had to go outside and get wet every time you wanted to find out if I’d been in touch to explain why I was late is nothing to do with me. And, actually, I did get in touch to explain why I was late. I told you that the traffic was bad. I sent you a text. And, when I knew that I was going to be really late, I texted you again to say that you should get yourself a drink. And then, when I arrived, I told you in person about the traffic, which was basically an apology. And, well, if you didn’t understand that, there’s not very much I can do about it.

Also, it bothers me that you say I didn’t ask you anything about yourself. As soon as we sat down, I asked you how your day was going and, when you said that it had been quite stressful, I don’t think it was way off base for me to segue into telling you about my day, which had been really stressful, actually, but in an interesting way. Listen, one of the things that a lot of people worry about when they’re dating is that the conversation is going to dry up and you cannot pretend that I let that happen at any point. Maybe you need to ask yourself whether, in fact, you’re not as good a listener as you think you are.

I find it really strange that you think that there was any awkwardness between us. I wasn’t aware of any awkwardness. It’s awkward now, obviously. But it wasn’t at the time. OK, so we disagreed about the Oscars. I remember that. But when I asked you where you got off being so dismissive of other people’s enjoyment, all I was saying was loosen up, lighten up, realise that there are other people besides you in the world. That’s banter. That’s what flirting sounds like.

In general, I have to say that I thought it went really well. And I actually liked you. I would still be happy to do it again and I would quite like you to reply to some of my more recent emails please.

Thank you for listening. This has been the 20th Museling. My name is Charles Adrian. I’m on twitter as @charldrian and more information about the podcast is at

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